Saturday, July 16, 2011

They grow up so fast!

Today, I saw my mentee (a girl I mentored since she was 14 years old). She is now 24. I kept in touch with her over the years but we haven't seen each other in about 4 years. She is all grown up! I remember when I saw her at age 20, and she was asking me about sex and I told her, just give me a second... because just the other day you were 14!!! She just grew up so fast, that I couldn't believe she was asking me about sex. After I processed the fact that time moves on, I remember telling her any and everything she wanted to know.

Now at 24, she lives with her boyfriend, works and is trying to figure out what she wants to do with her life. She is very put together, considering her upbringing (that's another story).

We strolled down University Ave in Palo Alto, ate Pizza at Pizza My Heart, followed by Coffee outside at Borders. And we just talked and laughed. We discussed sex and there was no more nostalgia for me, wishing she was only 14, I told her about my divorce (she asked) we talked about sex (of course) and I encouraged her to not rush into having children, weight and diets, her family drama and discussed more sex. LOL. It was such a good day.

She is so funny and glad that I can be there for her and she confides in me. I love that girl!

Friday, July 15, 2011

My social calendar is filling up

I am so not use to having a social calendar. Typically, my socialization included talking to other parents int he waiting room of a therapist office.

I don't want to get too comfortable because I know this is temporary. But I have to say, I'm at a place now, 2 weeks before picking up DS, that I am totally feeling good about my independence. I wouldn't trade DS for the world, but I dare I say, I'm having.... FUN? LOL.

So, I had two offers for tonight, Friday. Both with girlfriends who wanted to hang out. One was at an UPSCALE lounge where all the venture capitalist hang out. The other, at my favorite Cafe while my friend pours her heart out about her ex-boyfriend marrying another woman. Guess which one I chose?

I chose my friend crying her heart out. Yes, the swanky upscale place, full of eligible bachelors and beautiful people, where champagne flowed with laughter in the air, and plush chairs and the right lighting... is preferred. I know what it is to want to purge and bitch and moan about your ex.

I honestly am happy to be there for a friend. Friendship means a lot to me and friends have always been around for me and when I needed to man bash! LOL.

Besides, that swanky place is not going anywhere! I will go another time.

I just can't believe my calendar for the rest of July... A Picasso exhibit, Concerts in the park, Girls only champagne brunch, weekend BBQ, cute guys at the running club, and much more.

I am enjoying, because next month, it will be school days, therapy, play dates, and violin lessons. Thank goodness, the play dates out here include wine! LOL.

Hope you all are having a Jolly July.

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Showing the love... link love

I had to show the love... There are some blogs that are like my morning coffee; I just have to have them. Here are some of my favorites.... in no particular order.

Big Little Wolf @ Daily Plate of Crazy, always has such thoughtful and well-written posts. I think her intelligence attracts me the most and she is able write about a subject and just give you all angles. From sex and relationships to politics to healthcare! I am happy to have stumbled across her blog.

I have to work out and I can't stand the music at the gym. I turn to this blog, when I need to find some good music. I don't even know 90% of these songs, but over at you get to hear the song and playlist are sorted by your workout; cycling, running, weights. I love it.

I love my single mamas! But this mama is no longer single. I followed her in the past and it's just so wonderful to see that she has found love again. She is a great blogger and glad to see she still posts. Please check out Single Mom Seeking.

Motherhood in NYC is great. I use to live in NYC, so I have an affinity. She writes great post and she is funny.

And last but not least... I have to shout out my Autism parents. Being a parent to a child with Autism and teaching children with Autism, it's such a full part of my life. I definitely have my favorite Autism blogs as you can see on my blogroll. And when I found dad's writing blogs, I had to read. I love it. And Lost and Tired is DS times three! Please stop over and see what is going on when you can.

Those are just a few of my favorites!

Keep blogging everyone!!!

In the news... NYC boy's killing

This story makes me so sick to my stomach.

An 8 year old boy was walking from summer camp to meet his mother, who was waiting 7 blocks away on a street corner. Apparently, he missed a turn and asked a man for help and the man abducted him and then dismembered him.

I am speechless and just so sad. I feel for this family and makes me want to hold my son close.

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Weekly Update

So what is going on in my life...

DS: I had a moment of weakness and I almost left my house to go get my son, when I heard him tell me he was sad and wanted me and started crying. I started crying and my heart just broke. I called a friend who talked me off the ledge and told me, he needs to learn to be away from me sometimes and this is good for him. I pulled out of it and luckily he did too. I think he is just having a hard time adjusting. But a new video game and a promise to see some shark exhibit at a local casino on the strip and he's all better. LOL. And so am I. When he is doing good, I'm doing good.

Oh and it's so funny how my heart melts, when they send me a picture of him on the phone. Such a cutie pie!!! My little muffin man.

Work: I am still working part-time with one student and I have some potential side-hustles going on. We'll see what happens.

Gym: I took a Killer Cross Training class today and I was nervous but it ended up being ok! I did pretty good and my body is coming along nicely. I just want to loose about 2 inches in my waist. I have been focusing on lower body because my upper body develops fast and I don't like how it looks. I am also doing so much better with my running and look forward to my running group on Saturday.

Dating: The HOT topic. I went out the other night and got two phone numbers. I wasn't really interested though. And no, not being picky. One was a married man who was separated and I do not do separated, plus he seemed to bounce from one female to the next. And the other was out of my age range. Way out. I did sign up with a paid dating site and at least the people responding to my ad have a bit more to say and seem a bit more serious than the free site. We'll see. Oh and a very nice man helped me grocery shopping today! It was too funny. I'm telling you, when you turn that cablight on, plenty of people try and hail your cab! Tomorrow, I'm off to a single's mixer, I don't really like going to those, but I figure what the heck.

Food: I haven't posted a menu because I'm just eating whatever I can whip up at a moment's notice. No meal plan til August. I did make some GF crab cakes today and they were pretty tasty.

Reunion: I use to be a mentor for troubled teens and my mentee and I still keep in touch. She recently contacted me, she is now 21!!! How time flies and we are going out on Saturday. She is such a sweetie, I miss her and look forward to seeing her and seeing how she is doing. She cracks me up and just loves to make fun of me. When I use to pick her up, she would say, you drive slow like my mom! LOL. I think we'll take the BART train and head to the city and walk around.

That's about it, I look forward to reading other blogs and finding out what is going on in your neck of the woods ;)

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

TV Show: Teen Wolf

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I have to admit, I am a TV junkie. I love TV, it's my late night obsession. Thank goodness for my DVR, it allows me to just record everything and watch back at my leisure.

My latest favorite show, Teen Wolf on MTV. I remember watching the original with Michael J. Fox and I looked forward to the remake. It didn't disappoint and Monday's episode was full of thrills and chills!

Anyone else watching this? What's your favorite guilty pleasure TV program?

Monday, July 11, 2011

Horrible Bosses

After a busy weekend with friends, I decided to do my time honored tradition of checking out a matinee alone. I couldn't wait to see Horrible Bosses! This movie stars Jennifer Aniston, Jason Sudeikis, Charlie Day, Kevin Spacey, Jamie Foxx, Jason Bateman and Colin Farrell.

I will not give too much away but the story... 3 guys have horrible bosses! The oversexed Jennifer Aniston who sexually harasses her employee. Kevin Spacey, who uses his power to taunt and abuse his employees. And Colin Farrell, who just cares about money and coke. They conspire to kill their bosses. A lot of people are comparing this movie to a male version of 9 to 5 and I can definitely see that.

The movie does deliver steady laughs, the guys are hilarious. I can only imagine how much fun they had making this movie. But it did fall flat for me toward the middle and picked up a bit after that.

I would say, in terms of funny, the Hangover still ranks the most recent funny comedy I've seen in a while, followed by Bridesmaids. This comes in after those 2.

BTW... Jennifer looks GREAT!

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Who wears short shorts?

This has always been on my mind and a topic between friends sometimes. Who can wear "short shorts"? Is there an unspoken fashion rule? Is it reserved for a certain age group or body type? I wear them around the house and feel I look pretty darn good. I'm 5'4", 125 pounds, decent legs and my behind is not bad--ha ha. I can get away with it. But I never wear them in public.

I was in the gym today and I usually wear stretchy capri length pants, but it's getting so hot that I want to wear my stretchy short shorts instead. A part of me says, "you are about to be 40! those are for the younger girls!". But then another part of me says, "girl... who cares! wear them while you can!". I have heard different arguments from different friends and still...


What's a girl to do?

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Dating update

I've been on this free dating site for 3 weeks. I have gotten a lot of emails, did several "pre screens" via phone only two pre screens led to two dates. Which were a bust~Date 1, possessive and weird, Date 2 big time liar/gamer.

For the most part, I've been single for about 2.5 years now. I did date in the past and had two kinda/sorta boyfriends for a short term. Over the past 1.5 years I've been totally single and have dedicated myself to work, my son, friends, family, activities, etc... But now I find I desire a level of companionship and intimacy that I cannot get from my friends and it would be nice to have a partner.

I don't have a "list" that I'm necessary looking for. Of course there are the basics/standards that goes without saying. But overall, I feel there are two important factors for me in a relationship.... common interests (which bonds you) and a similar value system (sort of like your code of conduct that dictates how you live life and treat family).

My observation with the free dating site is that there are a lot of jokers on there and the few that are serious have serious issues (stalker types).

I will be moving to a paid site. I think my chances are slightly better because the jokers may stay on the free site. Then I can at least deal with people with serious intent.

I am not putting all my stock into online dating because there are men, EVERYWHERE. When I run through my neighborhood... men. At the grocery store... men. When you stop to pump gas... men. Hanging out with friends... men. At my new running club... men. They are everywhere ladies. One man asked for my number last week while I was waiting for my women's group.

I'm making another change. I think Demi Moore, Tina Turner, Mariah Carey are onto something. I'll be 40 in October and decided to date men who are my age and above. In the past, I did date a lot younger, but I didn't take them seriously. I am now prepared to take the younger men serious. I won't go too low, but my next husband may be younger ;)

So that's the dating news. Today I'm staying in, I've been out and about all week. I need to do some paperwork, work on my budget and do a couple loads of laundry. Later in the evening I may do a quick run around the park.

This weekend, I plan to meet up with a friend Friday, Saturday I have my running club followed by a concert in the park in San Francisco with some friends and Sunday I'm going to go see Horrible Bosses, it looks hilarious!

Have a Wonderful Wednesday!

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

DS adventures in Vegas

Even though DS is with his grandparents, I thought I would share some DS-isms.

My parents retired to Nevada; they live in Henderson which is about 30 minutes from the Vegas strip. They often get perks (wine, tequila, toaster ovens, etc...) from the casinos. When they go to pick up their perks DS goes with them. Of course you have to walk through the casino floor where children are not allowed to stop and of course gamble. DS sees all of the lights from the slot machines and he wants to play. My parents have told him, that's for adults.

So when I asked him what he did today, he told me, we went to the Rio Hotel with all the adults, kids can't touch mommy, only adults! My mother said he did squirm away and hit one of the buttons on the machine! Nothing happened of course. I wonder what on earth is going through his head with these forbidden adult machines; where seemingly to him, it's catered to a child with the lights and animation.

Then they walked through Caesars Palace and there was a replica of the statue of David and DS exclaimed, Look a PENIS!!!


My mother said she does not want to bring DS in the casinos anymore. It's too adult.

Sunday, July 3, 2011

Get your sexy on... work out!

I am so proud of myself. So yesterday I ran with my running club (I feel so official now!.. lol) and today I went to the gym and worked it out!!!! Here's what I did (Upper and Lower 3 reps of every exercise--I also so supersets).

~10 minute warm up on step mill (great for the booty)
~Smith Machine Squat (another good butt exercise)
~Barbell dead lifts (can there ever be too many butt exercises?? I don't think so!)
~Barbell bicep curls
~Seated Military Press
~ Tricep dips
~ Sumo squats with dumbbell (ladies, your rear end will be amazing, I promise!)
~ 3 position curtsy squats with middle squat
~ plank for 1 minute

I feel so strong! And the running is helping with the endurance. I also purchased Designer Whey and made a protein smoothie.

1/2 cup of Zero Vitamin Water
1/2 cup of cold water
1 banana
4 strawberries
2 tablespoons of blueberries
1 scoop of strawberry flavored designer whey

It was pretty good!

Tomorrow morning, gonna try and run 5K without walking! in 30 minutes. Then off to celebrate the 4th with friends.

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Found a great running club

I joined a running club this morning and today was my first day. I have to admit, I was intimidated! These were some die hard runners and I consider myself a beginner. They introduced me to everyone and they were all so very nice! I declared myself the baby of the group and was hoping someone would help me out and one guy ran with me, he is good with beginner runners.

I got some fantastic tips and I was able to improve. I'm happy to have found this club, it's much easier when you have support. I know I will be able to do my 5K now.

PS: Was not expecting so many good looking guys! That is motivation for me to keep coming back... ha ha. But seriously, everyone was nice, it wasn't like that at all. People just helping people out.

I'm also going to look for a good detox/cleanse and get back into eating healthy. My systems is so off and I feel miserable. I need to stop all the cheating! Bleckk!